This or That Questions for Couples

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48 questions in this deck · no repeats until you've seen them all

Two options, one partner, no wrong answers. Use these on a date, a long drive or a slow Sunday: read one out, both answer at the same time, then explain. The fun is in the explaining.

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48 This or That Questions for Couples by Theme

Date night

  1. Fancy dinner out or takeout on the couch?
  2. Movie night or game night?
  3. Plan the date or be surprised?
  4. Dinner and drinks or a picnic in the park?
  5. Dance class or cooking class together?
  6. Rom-com or thriller for date night?
  7. Dress up or stay in pajamas?
  8. Sunset walk or stargazing drive?
  9. Try a new restaurant or go back to our favorite?
  10. Arcade or bowling alley?
  11. Breakfast date or late-night dessert date?
  12. Concert or comedy show?

Home life

  1. Cook together or one cooks, one cleans?
  2. Big dog or small cat?
  3. Clean as you go or one big clean on Saturday?
  4. Separate blankets or share one?
  5. City apartment or house in the countryside?
  6. Wake up early together or sleep in together?
  7. Thermostat warm or cool?
  8. Decorate for every holiday or keep it minimal?
  9. Plan meals for the week or decide each night?
  10. Lazy Sunday or busy Sunday?
  11. Grocery run together or one of us goes?
  12. Couch cuddles or side by side on our phones?

Travel and adventure

  1. Beach resort or road trip?
  2. Plan every detail or figure it out when we land?
  3. Window seat or aisle seat for you?
  4. Camping or a cozy cabin?
  5. Big city break or tiny village?
  6. Long weekend away or one big trip a year?
  7. Museums or food markets?
  8. Hotel or rental apartment?
  9. Sunrise hike or sunset cocktails?
  10. Same place every year or somewhere new every time?
  11. Travel light or pack for every possibility?
  12. Learn the language first or wing it?

Love and us

  1. Love notes or surprise gifts?
  2. Words of affirmation or quality time?
  3. Talk it out right away or cool off first?
  4. Big anniversary party or quiet dinner for two?
  5. Matching outfits or never, ever?
  6. Share a dessert or order your own?
  7. Say I love you first or hear it first?
  8. Remember the first date or the first trip?
  9. Handwritten letter or a long voice message?
  10. Shared playlist or separate headphones?
  11. Couple friends or one-on-one time?
  12. Slow dance in the kitchen or karaoke duet?

How to Play

Answer at the same time. One of you reads the question, count to three and both say your pick. Matching answers get a high five; different answers get a story.

Predict your partner. Before answering, guess what your partner will pick. One point per correct guess; play to ten.

Ask one follow-up. After every pick, ask “why?” once. Most of the good conversation comes from that single follow-up.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you play this or that as a couple?

Read a question, both answer at the same time, then each explain your pick in one or two sentences. For a game, guess your partner's answer first and score a point when you're right. Ten questions take about ten minutes.

Are these questions good for a first date?

Most are. Date night, travel and home life questions are light enough for a first or second date. Save the love and us questions, like love languages and how you handle arguments, for when you know each other a bit better.

Are these couples questions clean?

Yes. Every question is safe to ask in a restaurant or in front of friends. They are playful, not explicit.

Can we play this with friends?

Yes. Couples game nights work well: each couple answers, and the other players guess whether the pair will match. The couple with the most matches wins.

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